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Whether you’ve been living together for six months or six years, breaking up is never a fun time. Not only is it emotional, but either one or both parties will have to move out. Every situation is different, but this guide will provide you with some steps when moving out after a breakup.
After you’re done moving out, remember to give yourself some self-care.
Take a Deep Breath
Honestly, that’s the first and most important steps. By taking a few slow deep breaths in and out, you’ll help keep yourself from becoming overwhelmed.
This is an emotional time, and it’ll be physically exhausting, but you must get through it. Deep breaths will keep you as centered as you can in this type of situation.
Discuss the Move out Plan
Assuming your situation isn’t horrible, you’ll need to discuss the move out plan with your now ex-partner. Whether you’re moving and they’re staying, or you’re staying and they’re moving out, everyone should be aware of the timelines.
You’ll need to decide some of the following items:
- When are they moving out?
- How will they move their items?
- Will the staying party be present with the other party moves out?
- How will you split the belongings between you two?
- Who will keep the pets?
- How much time will they have after the initial move out to collect any remaining items?
Some of these questions will differ between renting an apartment and owning a house.
Protect Your Most Valuable Items
Even when you’re splitting possessions, you must secure your most valuable belongings. This means your phone, computer, diary, medical information, home safe or lock box, and other private information.
You also should change all passwords to any valuable accounts that your ex-partner had access to previously. They don’t need access to it, and it’s no longer their business. Plus, this eliminates the chance of them messing with your most private, secure information.
Get and Find Help to Move
Unless you’re super-fast or you don’t care about throwing everything into trash bags, you’ll most likely need help to assist you with your move.
You can reach out to friends and family to help you move.
If you’re close with your coworkers, you can ask them to help you.
You also can find help through the Moving Help® Marketplace. Moving Help has many labor-only providers who are ready to assist you. Whether you need to find help packing, loading, and unloading, or just loading and unloading help, they’ll be here for you.
Some Service Providers also have experience moving belongings during a breakup, which is helpful. Many labor-only Service Providers also have same-day or next-day services.
Move out Day
Moving out after a breakup is never easy, and moving day will probably — but hopefully not — have a speed bump or two. That’s OK. Just remember to take everything one step at a time.
You should have a game plan, and this game plan should be reiterated to anyone who is helping you.
Bring Your Help
Whether your ex-partner is there or not while you’re moving out, you will want to do your best to ignore them. Whether they try to impede by trying to talk to you, bother you, or ignore you entirely, your No. 1 focus is packing and loading your belongings.
You have no time to waste moving your items. Talking to your ex-partner won’t help you accomplish your No. 1 job: which is to move out.
Give Everyone an Assignment
It doesn’t matter whether you have labor-only providers, friends, family, or coworkers because everyone should have a job. If someone finishes their job early, assign them a new task. If someone needs help, that’s where you step in to help them.
Otherwise, your main job will be coordinating everything first and then pitching in and helping out.
Moving to Your New Place
Great job. Everything or at least the main essentials have been moved out and are unloaded into your new place. This is a massive step. You should take a brief moment to thank yourself for getting this done.
Even if everything isn’t 100 percent out of your old living situation, the most important, essentials and valuables are out of there. Now, it’s time to start unpacking and get your new home organized.
Make Your New Place Your Own
The first step after unpacking all your belongings is to make it your own place. This is your home. You get to live by your rules and only your rules.
Are you a clean freak? Great. Be a clean freak. Are you a messy person who enjoys piles of mess everywhere? Great. Be your messy self.
Did your ex-partner not let you have a space for your books? Great. Create that space. Do you want a video game centric corner? Make it a video game area now.
The point is to make your new home for you and only you.
Practice Self-Care
While or once you’re settled into your new home, make sure you practice some self-care for your new lifestyle. Self-care is different for everyone, so pick something that means self-care for you. This could include:
- Therapy
- Meeting new people
- Hanging out with friends and family
- Hosting at your new place
- Going to new places
- Trying new experiences
Have a Plan When Moving out After a Breakup
Breaking up with your partner isn’t easy. Moving out after a breakup isn’t easy either. Hopefully with this Moving Help guide, you can have a better idea on what to expect and how to plan your future situation.
Good luck, and here’s to a better and brighter future.
